Mommy Affirmations

The girls are at mom's for the weekend. I love talking to them on the phone when they're not with Kyle. With Kyle they are so reserved and non interactive with me. At my mom's they giggle, and prattle on about what they're doing, they SOUND happy and I love that!

They were convincing Papa to watch Shrek 2 with them. They took it with them specifically to watch with Papa. So cute!

Papa's doctor also told him to take fish oil, for his health.....when mom plunked it down on the table, I guess he complained about having to take icky medicine. Jaala wisely told him to just swallow it really fast and he wouldn't even notice it's taste. His rebuttal was to let her smell it. She said "ewwww, that smells just like rotten pop cans!"

Rotten Pop cans? WTF? (that would be an experiential reference to her collecting pop cans, in highway ditches, to "help" her daddy buy a house, he drives on the shoulder, and they run through the ditch collecting "5 cents".)

On the drive to mom's place, Lei decided 5 mins in that she missed me and needed to call me. No particular thing to say, just to check in. "so, how ya doin mom?"
Afterward, mom wondered out loud what she does if she's feeling that same need, only on her way to K yle's house, would she be allowed to contact me? Likely not, so what does she do if she gets those emotions and urges? It makes me sad.

Mom went as Parent Helper to both girls classrooms on friday, on the way out Jaala told her teacher that she was going to grammy's house and prolly wouldn't be back for a long time. Her teacher told her to have fun and that she really hoped Jaala would come back on monday, if she didn't , they would miss her. Jaala replied that she really wanted to stay at grammy's for lots of sleeps, but she had to come home for her mommy.
AWWWW! It's so affirming knowing that she wants and needs to come home to me. That may not be an easy thing to relate to for every mom, but when the battle for their hearts and minds is fought, IN their hearts and minds, it is so hard to be certain that I am building a significant connection and attatchment to them, that is vital to who and what they are, inspite of their father's efforts to create a chasm between us.

now, I MUST stop procrastinating and get my paper written.